So I got sent to the dean today for wearing this top. My study tech teacher said that I was “exploiting” myself and that it could be a distraction to the other students. I got up out of my seat and told her that I wasn’t going to listen to her dress codes. In a way, she was being misogynist and slut shaming and I think that’s wrong. I will continue to wear what I want and nobody can tell me not to. The fact that womens bodies are sexualized and objectified so much angers me and that’s the reason why this happened. I’m going to wear what I want, how I want, when I want and that’s it.
I was there, reblog the shit out of this guys
I’m a guy. I can’t wear a shirt like this either, even though I’m not going to be wearing a bra. it’s dress code. It’s not slut shaming. You can’t show your bra like that at most jobs. why should you at school? Yes sexism is wrong and all that, but you can’t get ‘angry at the patriarchy” because you can’t show your undergarments in public. I’m not going to wear jeans with a rip in the side or the front that show off my flowery boxers, because that’s just not appropriate for school. Have some professionalism. You can wear whatever you like at home or with your friends or whatever, yes, but school prepares you for real life.
At work you can’t have this attitude of “I wear the fuck ever I want.” and expect to keep your job. School is the same way because it’s trying to teach you that lesson. That’s unrealistic; almost any job you get is going to have someone tell you what to wear or what to do because you work for them and you represent their company. If you don’t look the way they need you to look, that makes them look bad. A tattoo parlor probably isn’t going to hire someone who dresses like a nun and a top company isn’t going to hire someone who comes to work in a tank top that shows off her bra or a guy that shows off his ballsack.
You can’t blame patriarchy for this, I’m sorry. You can’t blame sexism for this. If I wore booty shorts and you could almost see my balls through my semi transparent flowery goddamn boxers, I would get in the same amount of trouble as you, and it’s within good reason.
I have no idea where half these girls on tumblr get off saying that the enforcement of generally accepted rules of society are ‘slut shaming’ and ‘sexism’ but thank you tumblr dude for speaking up.
It goes without saying that there is a fine line between freedom of expression and being respectful of those around you. In this case, when you are in an institution such as school or the work place, you need to be respectful of the people around you and follow the dress code. Please understand that what you wear, guy or girl, regardless of intent, is going to be interpreted by those around you in a certain way that would follow the standard perception of the general population. By standard perception, I mean: showing any portion of your undergarments and in some cases, showing anything above the knee or below the collar bone. Doing any of the aforementioned will be perceived as provocative to a varying degree depending on which part of the world you live in.
In this case you were showing a portion of your bra while you were in school. Because I highly doubt any other girls were exposing themselves in this way, there were probably a good number of girls and guys that were distracted by your bra. The difference between having, say, brightly coloured hair that is equally as distracting, is that showing your bra is interpreted as provocative whilst hair colour does not carry the same kind of offense. Therefore, your choice of dress was offensively distracting and disrespectful to your peers. This is not ‘slut shaming’, misogynistic, nor sexist.
To give you another example, once in my martial arts class, a young boy about 9 years old chose to change his clothes in a corner that was still visible to the rest of the class because he did not want to wait on the dressing rooms. As soon as he took off his gi to change into his shirt, my sensei yelled his name, made him stand at attention to the rest of the class, and apologize to us for being disrespectful. This is not sexism. The rest of the class, full of young girls and boys, did not want to see his naked torso and he undressed regardless of their presence. So therefore, this was seen as disrespectful. He called him out, embarrassed him, and made him apologize as to teach him a lesson. He was not harsh, but the boy never did it again and that was the point.
The parts of your body and undergarments that are generally reserved for either your own viewing, or people that are intimately close with you, should never be revealed in public because it is disrespectful. I hope this helped..
Welcome to the “ME” Generation.
I agree with the first guy’s response. It makes sense and puts everything in perspective.
The second dude kinda got off track though. I don’t think it’s a matter of disrespect. It’s a matter of just following the rules. If you want to break them, fine, but you’re getting reprimanded for breaking the rules. Not because of any inherent biases against sluts. Not because of slut shaming. You just broke the rules.
On the other hand, fuck the idea that showing off certain parts of your body is “disrespectful”. Back in the day, it was “disrespectful” for a woman to show off more than her ankles. It was “disrespectful” for a colored person to sit on the front of a bus. Even now, today, it’s “disrespectful” for certain woman to show their bare faces in some countries.
It’s against the rules and societal norms. It’s not a sign of disrespect to other people. If the sight of a bra is enough to get a school kid distracted, then he needs to grow up and mature past that. Just like with gay people and the army. Or black people and the work force. The human body is a beautiful thing that should be admired and celebrated. The only “lack of respect” here is the culture that perpetuates the over-sexualization of it and the idea that it’s something that we need to hide.